tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7583857867652090050.post8909490187124067303..comments2024-03-09T02:13:07.502-08:00Comments on 5elementknitr: P is for Protective5elementknitrhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08595545440993534260noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7583857867652090050.post-41456485947753927632010-03-26T07:25:30.226-07:002010-03-26T07:25:30.226-07:00Barbara,
First off, thanks for stopping by! You ...Barbara, <br />First off, thanks for stopping by! You are right, I stand corrected that there are no bad kids, juust lazy parents. I'm sorry for the things you've been through and I'm completely compassionate and understanding of parents who make the effort.<br /><br />The kids I'm talking about... there's no visible effort. I am judgmental of parents who dump their kids in a class then sit in the hall with their laptops ignoring things. F shoved my chiild and was constantly picking on him so I stepped in. His dad is appears to be a lazy, bad ignoring parent.<br /><br />And the other kid with the BB gun? Absolutely can't stand his parents who let those kids roam around at all hours and armed.5elementknitrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08595545440993534260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7583857867652090050.post-30040997911673942392010-03-25T19:52:19.312-07:002010-03-25T19:52:19.312-07:00I'm sorry to disagree with everyone here, and ...I'm sorry to disagree with everyone here, and I don't know what was up with the one family you mentioned, but your general point is a pretty ugly one. Some kids have behavior problems, even if the parents do their very best to control it. I have 2 sons, who are 6 years apart in age. The older one has ADHD and caused a lot of trouble (bothering other kids constantly, disrupting class, driving his teachers nuts) when he was younger. The younger one has no such behavior issues. My husband and I got a lot of really nasty and hurtful and judgemental comments from people who were angry about my older son's behavior, even though we were taking him to psychologists and pediatricians and doing positive reinforcement behavior programs and everything you can imagine to mitigate the problem. On the other hand, people who only knew my younger son seemed to think I was a great mom. But I'm the same mom! When I read things like "There are no bad kids, only bad parents" I want to say "You know, there aren't that many bad parents either!" Most people really, really love their kids and are doing everything they can think of to raise them right. Haven't your kids ever done anything that embarrassed you? Can we please try for a little more compassion here, a little less judgement?Barbaranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7583857867652090050.post-18030293516753258552010-03-21T05:31:12.472-07:002010-03-21T05:31:12.472-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.早餐https://www.blogger.com/profile/11225531447049259229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7583857867652090050.post-22125158540673440732010-03-19T08:00:35.169-07:002010-03-19T08:00:35.169-07:00What Heidi said. My RN husband works on an adoles...What Heidi said. My RN husband works on an adolescent psychiatric ward. Very few of the kids are actually *crazy*, most just have crazy/weird/abusive/overbearing/downright mean parents.<br /><br />Mother Bears are essential. You go, ma'm!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7583857867652090050.post-40692265971410005332010-03-17T19:01:22.367-07:002010-03-17T19:01:22.367-07:00How freaking weird. The hair on the back of my nec...How freaking weird. The hair on the back of my neck was standing up when I read this.<br />I hope the step-dad sets the kid straight on gun rules. It sounds like none of them are really bad, just needing a little tending to.<br />Don't other parents say anything about these things?khttp://dottedyellowline.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7583857867652090050.post-1608741090370708222010-03-16T17:32:19.904-07:002010-03-16T17:32:19.904-07:00I echo Heidi's sentiment. You are doing the jo...I echo Heidi's sentiment. You are doing the job you are supposed to do; letting the kids try to handle it on their own, and stepping in before it gets ugly.I used to think I could support the neglected kid by giving him extra attention- that didn't work, in fact, it made the situation worse. I believe you did the right thing. Hopefully the karate class won't be soured for your boys, it's a great discipline.Marissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17322078210554452393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7583857867652090050.post-65941394614830826262010-03-16T15:44:55.978-07:002010-03-16T15:44:55.978-07:00That is sad, but inevitable. Not all parents are ...That is sad, but inevitable. Not all parents are good parents. Not all parents even try to be good parents. So it's your job to protect your kids if someone else fails to control theirs. You did the right thing in both cases. Yeah, it sucks. But you're a good mom.Yarnhoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06625926254864861603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7583857867652090050.post-91698445086281168862010-03-16T15:39:21.387-07:002010-03-16T15:39:21.387-07:00I agree with you 99% of the time. I work as a para...I agree with you 99% of the time. I work as a para with "special-ed" first and second graders. Out of all of the students I've worked with during the past three years only 3 of them have had true disabilities. The others (including most of them this year) are there because they have crappy parents and/or homelives. The stuff some of them have been through at 6 and 7 I wouldn't wish on an adult, let alone a child. OTOH, I've seen two children who exhibited true psychopathic tendencies (no remorse, seeking out others to torture, etc.) who have "normal" parents. The majority of the kids though are just spoiled and ignored (often together).Heidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10409844966813816495noreply@blogger.com